Multiple Personalities

Yesterday I wrote about my identity crisis and in the “me” time I said I was going to take I tried to start at the beginning by looking at my different business verticals, my “personalities” if you will. I thought if I went back to basics and looked at everything with a fresh perspective it might help me focus. This is what I’m working with:

Laina Turner – author, blogger, marketing for other authors

A Mom Entrepreneur - social networking site for mom entrepreneurs

Chizofrenic.com - online magazine for women

Laina Molaski – college professor, business consultant, educator

While there can be crossover from one personality to another they aren’t all interchangeable. It makes it hard for me at times to keep all of them up and running seamlessly. I have a focus and goals for each one but not a great action plan.

What do you do to create your executable action plan?

Laina

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Identity Crisis

Long gone are the days of graduating from college (or not) and working 30 years until it’s time to retire. Getting the gold watch and living your life out on a good pension traveling in your Winnebago.

Our society has changed in many ways where staying with a company until you retire isn’t guaranteed on the employer or the employee end. For me I enjoy variety and have always dabbled in many different things on wide spectrums.  However, I think I have now done that to a fault where I’m confused as to what direction I need to take to reach my goals (whatever those are now) and am in a holding pattern. Holding for what, I’m not sure. Maybe some clear epiphany as to what I’m supposed to do with my life now. Where to focus my energies, what should be on my new master plan?

I came across a blog post by Erica Douglass How I (Almost) Threw My Popular Blog in the Trash . It talked about how she wasn’t thrilled with where her blog was going, so took a step back to figure out what she really wanted to do, and then came back with renewed energy. She apologized for being gone and explained how some folks might not like her new direction but this was the path she was starting down because it’s what SHE wanted to do. It made me think how I have ignored many of my business verticals the last few months because I didn’t feel I had that clear direction  I wasn’t sure what my focus was and as I mentioned in the first paragraph have been paralyzed by not knowing those things. What I realized after reading her blog is the piece I was missing was actually taking the ”me” time to think about what I wanted and where I wanted to go and then how to get there. I was so busy and caught up in the day to day craziness I couldn’t see the forest for the trees (to be cliche). I’m also in the dilemma many entrepreneurs are in where there are things I HAVE to do to support myself until the things I WANT to do can fully replace that income. The reality is I have 2 kids I support on my own and I want them to eat. At least every other day:)

So I have set aside time every day this week to do nothing but think. About the big picture of what I want and the small picture of how to get there.

Share with me how you have determined your direction?

 

Laina

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Clutter

We all have it. Well at least I like to think that we all have it. I was looking around the house today, at the clutter, thinking about ho I needed to do something about it. Not only is it annoying, I don’t want to see all this crap lying around, but for anyone who has read self help books you now that to declutter your space and your mind allows for new, even better things to come to you. So here are the things that are taking up space, the clutter, that I just can’t bear to part with.

  1. Boxes of books. Not only do I have book shelves full of books but I have totes in the garage full of books. I’m not talking about expensive books or collectors editions, I’m talking about paperback Janet Evanovich books or Stori Telling by Tori Spelling. I just love books and hate to get rid of them but the reality is I rarely read a physical book these days. I read ebooks on my reader, my laptop, or my phone so do I really need all those?
  2. Clothes. I have clothes I haven’t worn in years, cloths that are “fat” or “skinny” that again haven’t worn in at least a few seasons. Clothes with the tags still on that I hate to get rid of “just in case” just in case what? They take up so much space.
  3. Notecards and other paper products. I love to buy notebooks, notecards, fun paper and again I have totes of the stuff that I have every intention of using but I keep buying more so I never have the chance to use it all.
  4. Misc crap. Such as a zillion USB adapters, old phone chargers, a heated coaster for my coffee mug that I haven’t used in years, and things I’m not even sure what they are.
  5. Kids stuff. Where is the limit here? I don’t want to toss all my kids artwork and drawings out but I am not a scrapbooker so I just have boxes of the stuff. I feel so guilty tossing it out.

I know if I go with my first instinct on what to get rid of it will declutter fabulously and I will never miss the stuff. But then there’s that “what if” what if three years from now I need it?

I never used to be like this. I used to systematically go through my house every six months and toss what very hadn’t been used or thought of within the last six months (not counting seasonal stuff) but after many life changing events I just am not as willing to get rid of things. Silly but true and something I really need to get over. I read something in a book that said “holding on to things you don’t need allows you to hold on to what you were, not embrace what you are now.” I definitely need to embrace the now!

 

How do you deal with clutter?

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The glamour of business

Yeah, us businesswoman know is is not all glamor and glitz. When I decided to go into business for myself I thought how awesome. I get to set my own hours, work when I want for who I want, the money will roll in, it will be all Louis Vuitton bags and Tiffany jewelery. Ok, I really didn’t think that. I knew it could be hard but sometimes I think how much harder can it get? But yet I’m still here. I’ve delved into working a “real” job after five years of not having a “real” job and lasted all of one month exactly. I couldn’t do it. I’m no longer able to be a corporate employee. Not that there is anytime wrong with that, it’s just not me. I need freedom but with freedom comes great responsibility. The responsibility to provide your own paycheck which is far more difficult than working forty hours a week for that direct deposit. You not only need to come up with the idea of what you are doing to do/provide to make the paycheck but then you have to create it, market it, and find folks who want to buy it. Yet many of us prefer to go that route. I do it for the flexibility to be the best mom I can be and the ability to express my creative freedom. It’s also a personal challenge of sorts. I feel good at the end of the day knowing I have taken care of my clients and my family. yet I do have those moments of doubt where I wonder what the heck am I thinking. I have a PhD. I am supposed to be working in academics and doing the things that the student loans I’m still paying for trained me to do but I’m not. I feel I have a different purpose and that purpose requires me to follow my own path.

What made you decide to go into business for yourself?

Laina

From business to the frivolous and everything in between…lainaturner.com

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6 steps to getting started with social media

I was looking for some good article on how to get started with social media to post here due to requests by readers and I cam across this one. I felt it was a good source of information for Google+.

Read here and enjoy.

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The Wrap Dress

You hear a lot of talk about the LBD (little black dress) and how every woman either has one or should have one. you know for those occasions that just pop up and you need to get ready in a hurry. The LBD is versatile and won’t let you down.

The other staple that I feel is a must in any woman’s wardrobe is the wrap dress. Now if you haven’t owned one of these you must go out and get one. Not only are wrap dresses about as comfy as pajamas they are also designed to hide a multitude of figure flaws, the main reason I enjoy them.

The mother of the wrap dress, Diane Van Furstenburg, invented this dress in 1973 and it’s been such an iconic dress it’s even on display at the Metropolitan Museum of Art.

 

 

 

 

The wrap dress: a user’s guide  – see full post here

What is it?

It’s a dress with two front panels that cross over each other and then tie at the back with two fabric cords or ribbons. The classic version is made of silk jersey, knee-length, and has long sleeves.

Why are they so popular?

They look sexy, but are very comfortable to wear. In fact, wearing one is the closest you can get to going out in a dressing gown.

When should we wear one?

At the office, for work drinks, or for family events that might feature judgemental

relatives, and any event to which the dress code is frustratingly vague.

And when not wear one?

A minority might disagree, but it’s not really smart enough to wear to a wedding (unless the wrap dress in question has a very vibrant print), or on the red carpet, or during a state visit to the UK.

Whom do they suit?

Women of most ages. However, as Kate Middleton has shown, the classic wrap can look staid on someone in their mid-twenties – though her kitten heels and pearls certainly didn’t help. Generally, wrap dresses flatter curvy, athletically built and even pregnant women; the key to success is having a reasonably toned figure.

Which styles are most fashionable right now?

Floral and tribal prints and bright colours are on trend, as are shirtdresses and safari-inspired styles. Look for seasonal details such as the ruffle neck on the navy, short-sleeved dress available on www.matchesfashion.com/dvfand www.netaporter.com

Are there any potential wardrobe malfunctions?

Choose seam-free underwear and avoid dresses made from cheap fabrics – they will reveal lumps you didn’t know you had. Tie the cords tightly and don’t wear on windy days, or you risk spontaneously unwrapping.

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Motherhood ain’t easy

I laughed so hard when I saw this because the day before I had been thrilled when I was able to leave the kids at home and head to do my grocery shopping in peace. It’s pretty sad when the highlight of your week is being able to peacefully price compare meat prices.

As much as I relish these moments away from my children I wouldn’t trade them for the world. It’s amazing how when you have kids your perspective changes regarding what you do and don’t do for fun.

Laina

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